Admit Your Faults

I think we can all agree that 2020 has already been one wild and crazy year. I honestly can’t remember a time in my lifetime that there has been so much chaos, division, fear, and uncertainty. I am sure I would not be far off to say that most people, in some form, are struggling. It could be that the struggles are from financial burdens, or maybe, like me, things are effecting you more from an emotional standpoint. No matter the circumstances it has not been fun for anyone. Stress can definitely become a monster in our life if we allow it. That monster will not only effect us personally in a multitude of different ways, but it always seems to carry over to the ones we love as well.

If we can all just take a deep breath here and use a little honesty. We ALL, yes I am saying ALL of us have taken our stresses, anxiety, or unhappiness out on someone else. How many times have you been in a bad mood and you snap at someone over the silliest things, like leaving the toilet seat up, or a glass on the table. We all have done it, and I would say more than we care to admit. Does that make us bad people? No, of course not. Is stress a free pass to mistreat others? No not at all. However, it happens to all of us.

We must remember that, yes these are pretty normal incidents that take place throughout our life. However, we must also make sure that the incidents do not become part of our normal pattern in everyday life. Also, we must be able to ensure that we know that we must also be able to admit when we are wrong.

Let us first take a look at the issue of this becoming a pattern. What I mean by that is do not allow yourself to become a bitter, hateful person. Someone who constantly has something to say to others or about certain situations. A person who complains about everything no matter what circumstances they are in. Do not become the person that people dread to see coming around because they know there will be something said or some type of problem (or I could say a problem to them anyway). Most of us know someone like that I am sure. They have allowed this to become a part of who they are, and a lot of the times they do not even see that this is how they are. They tend to turn and blame others for their actions. They claim to act this way or do that because of what others may say or do. They simply do not see any fault of their own. I tend to see that people who fall under this pattern never admits guilt no matter what. I find that when people get into this trap of hateful and bitterness, it is very difficult to get out and people just have to learn how to deal with them in the best way they know how.

Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away with you, along with all malice. Ephesians 4:31.

If someone is in that pattern of negative behavior, or even if they are not, it is important that everyone learns how to admit they are wrong, or admit their faults. What? Admit faults in ourself? Yes, it is vital that we all take a deep look into our own mind, souls, and hearts and learn to grow as a person by admitting our very own faults. This may be shocking to some, but no one is perfect. We all make mistakes. We all have emotions, feelings, and needs. Remember, we are all very different too. What effects one person may not the next. The big word to keep in mind here is RESPECT. You should always respect other people’s feelings. I personally have dealt with many people in my life that have hurt my feelings, I mean really hurt them. Several of those people I have approached to talk to them about how they have hurt me. Some did go on to say they were sorry. However, some told me that they didn’t do anything wrong and they didn’t care. My advice that if someone approaches you and tells you that you hurt their feelings, then respect that. Please do not dismiss them. Don’t be the person in the bitterness trap who thinks everyone in the world is wrong but you. Be the better person. Be the person God would want you to be. Most people would not say they are hurt, unless they truly are. Have the strength to admit when you are wrong.

Admitting faults is not a weakness and it is not an ad to the world that you are not a good person. It is opposite of that. It is a sign of strength. It shows others that you have the ability to see yourself for what you truly are good and bad. Admitting wrongs is such a difficult thing to do. We are all naturally stubborn and want to be right all the time. Guess what? We are not . I have always told my girls if you do something wrong just admit it. I would much rather deal with them being honest then trying to hide. Find comfort in the fact that admitting our own faults will not only bring peace to others, but will bring a lot growth and peace to our own life as well.

So what can we take from this? Admit when you are wrong. Don’t fall into a trap of always being bitter, complaining, and lashing out to others. Choose to live a life more full of positivity, love, kindness and forgiveness. Learn to grow as a person and admit your mistakes. Try to live everyday seeing the good side of things instead of complaining. Respect the feelings of others. Overall, just allow yourself to admit your faults and you will see the freedom it actually gives you.

I pray each of you are covered with many blessings today.

Love and hugs,

Jennifer

Be Kind

This week has been a really tough week for me. I am not sure if it is the stress from having to stay home, hormones, or a combination of those things. It has just been a very tough week. To top it off I had to step into an unfortunate situation this week involving my daughter in which I had to defend her. It was definitely not what I needed on top of a week that was already turning out to be a stressful one for me. I know I should never complain. It most definitely could be much worse. My family is healthy and safe, and that I am thankful for. Especially with everything going on from this terrible virus that is invading our lives. As we all know though, even when we are thankful for good things, sometimes the sadness can still creep in.

As I mentioned in another blog, I do suffer from anxiety. It is something I have dealt with my whole life. The area I suffer the most is social anxiety. It is so difficult for me to be in crowds, or in groups of people, both big and small. I know, it doesn’t make since why then the quarantine would be adding to my stress, because it takes me away from all that. The stress comes from just not being able to live our lives in the “normal” way we are accustomed to. I am stressed for my kids and the activities, memories, and friends they are missing. I am stressed for my husband and the extra burden he is having to carry financially. I am stressed that someone in my family will become ill. Basically, I just stress over everything, and do enough worrying for everyone. It is just my nature.

Even though this week has been hard, and the stress has seemed to be an extra burden for me this week, I can still say I have grown a lot over the past few days. That growth has come because I was reminded of the importance of being KIND to everyone. I will say this week, kindness was something that was a challenge for me. No I am not a mean hateful person, but the burdens that were on my heart was making it difficult to reach for that kindness. The stress I was feeling made me just want to lay around and be sad. I had no energy, and not much motivation to do anything. And then I also had the unfortunate incident with my daughter. I can honestly say when this happened, kindness was not something that came to my mind. They hurt my daughter, so my first reaction was that I wanted to hurt them in return. Fortunately , I took some time to pray and reflect before I took any action. As a Christian, I wanted God to guide me in how to handle the situation. Somehow, I was able let the stress from the week go, and I dealt with the situation with kindness and respect. Was this difficult to do? Yes. Especially because my daughter was hurting. Did I receive kindness back? Unfortunately no. I actually received rudeness and negativity in return. And guess what? I am ok with that. After the anxiety I was feeling from the week, you would think that I would not be. However, I had to get back in touch with reality and realize who I really was, and show others the same thing. I never want to be seen as an ugly, rude person. I want to be seen as someone who shines light, love, and kindness no matter what the circumstances. Yes, this week was tough for me and no matter how many times I tried to just give my worries to God, a new one would come in. So the burdens felt heavy. But I did not want those burdens to make me into something that I was not.

We should always be mindful that no matter what is going on in our lives, there is never an excuse to be unkind to anyone else. The stress we are feeling at home, work, or anything else should never carry into how we choose to treat others. Kindness and respect should always be our top priority. Yes, even when someone hurts us. I know, as I said this is so difficult to do. I was faced with that this week. You never know, though, what others are dealing with also. They may be having a bad day or bad week, and their behavior is reflecting that. Your words to them may be the only thing they hear that day. Do you want to add to someone’s burdens or ease them? I want to be someone’s light for the day, even if they do not want to see it. Even if they have nothing kind to say to me, I want to show them my heart is not only full of love and kindness, but a reflection of grace and kindness. Isn’t that what God commands us to do? To love, respect, forgive, and treat others like we would like to be treated?

Take the time to always treat people with kindness, and yes there will be times you do not get it in return. Just remember the light you shine today, will be remembered tomorrow. So be the reason someone smiles today because you never know what someone is going through. Let’s all make the world a kinder place for all of us.

Be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you. Ephesians 4:32.

I hope each of you are covered in many blessings and an abundance of kindness today.

Love and hugs,

Jennifer